Shyness: A Disease?

The other day someone told me that my shyness is killing me…I couldn’t help but wonder, is being shy really the equivalent to having a disease?

According to what I found when I typed in “what is a Disease” on Google search (because who walks around remembering exactly what a disease is literally considered?) A disease is “a disorder of structure or function in a human, animal, or plant, especially one that produces specific signs or symptoms or that affects a specific location and is not simply a direct result of physical injury.” When I typed in “What is shy” on the same search engine, I found that to be shy is to be “reserved or have or show nervousness or timidity in the company of other people.

tumblr_obomr94spF1uauof6o1_500I don’t know about you, but being nervous, though it is a natural feeling that the majority of us feel at some point in our lives (but of course, all things in moderation) can not exist simultaneously with confidence. It’s in that moment you overcome the nervousness & timidity that confidence starts to come up for air after nearly drowning in your mental sea of self-consciousness.

So, being shy could be compared to being a disease. But the good news is…it’s curable. However, the even better news, it’s actually not shyness itself that is toxic, but more so the things linked to the shyness, the precursors if you will.

If you or someone you know suffers from shyness, here’s a word of advice: Stop thinking the world revolves around you! If you ask me, being shy is kind of like a form of narcissism…gone wrong. Narcissist may think they’re the center of the universe, but at least they place value on exactly who they are…in a weird, self-obsessed way. When shyness begins to consume you, you think all eye’s are on you but you think that what’s being viewed by others is inadequate. This probably stems from being judged in the past (i.e. bullying) or developing learned helplessness (i.e. repeatedly not meeting your own expectations and feeling like you’re simply not good enough and assuming you probably wont be seen as such in the eyes of others either to even bother).

The find the cure, don’t filter your uniqueness out of fear of what others will think, for you’re then depriving both yourself and the world. Be you, believe in you and take the opinions of others in stride and when need be, transform such comments into constructive criticism. tumblr_obrk209Cwp1uauof6o1_500

Don’t let shyness cause you to die, leaving little to nothing left behind for the world that so desperately needed YOU in full. Shyness can be both beautiful & deadly based merely on the reasons for… Know the difference and when to “snap out of it” to shine your light without fear and doubt, be it behind the scenes or center stage…or they two can kill you, while alive.

(Click here if you’re bored for more on shyness in comparison to introversion and social anxiety)








  1. Sabiscuit

    I’m not shy in every situation, but I’m super introverted. A friend of mine and I discovered that we both have the same affliction. We are heavy users because we prefer not to go outside to do anything. I had to force myself to go to the mall on Sunday to get some things instead of clicking CHECKOUT. I enjoy being outdoors surrounded by natural scenes, preferably a thick wood. (The art supply stacks at the bookstore will do). It would be very nice if everyone else to stayed indoors and not look at me.

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    1. Raven Young

      I think that there is nothing wrong with being super introverted as long as it’s not completely shutting you away from human contact. I like how you “forced” yourself to go to the mall on sunday lol I know it wasnt easy but you love yourself enough to know that you cant let being an introvert stop you from experiencing other ways of life and I admire that. Some of the best things you’ll discover are outside of your comfort zone. I’m sure that’s how you met your friend…unless it was via internet too haha but even then you went out of your way by letting them in your life in some way. Extremeee introverts wont even do that!

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